• 90% of People Lie in Online Dating Profiles

    Study found that 90% of people fudge a few facts in their online dating profile.

    It’s the stereotypical online dating horror. You’re attracted to the picture of a great-looking guy or gal. When no flags turn up in emails or phone conversations, you agree to meet. And that’s where the fantasy starts to crumble. Your date looks nothing like his or her dating profile photo. Obviously, your date used either a much younger photo or someone else’s photo for that gorgeous dating headshot that first tempted you to call. Not exactly an honest basis for building a relationship. Even if you were intrigued by your phone conversations, the initial dishonesty can be a deal-breaker. Even worse – and more dangerous — are the “charmers” who flatter and lie, pretending to be someone they’re not.

    Online Dating ProfileWeeding out the pretenders is one of the toughest challenges of online dating and one of the most important, particularly for women. Of course, in every dating situation there’s that scary-exciting feeling of facing the unknown that comes whenever you meet someone new; but online dating subtracts the body language clues that play such an important role in our evaluation of other people.

    A 2007 University of Michigan study found that about 90% of people fudge a few facts in their online dating profiles, usually shaving a few pounds off their weight or adding an inch or two to their height. Most daters expect a bit of that when they use an online dating site. It’s not the majority of little white lies that bother people; it’s the big whoppers.

    It’s human to want to present your best self when you write your online dating profile and choose a dating profile photo, and the temptation to fudge the facts a little – or a lot – is hard for many people to resist. But resist you should because, ultimately, you want to meet someone who is attracted to the real you.

    Next time: Who lies about what on online dating sites?

  • Who Lies About What on Online Dating Sites?

    Life is full of little white lies. We fudge a few pounds on our driver’s license, drop a few bucks when we brag about scoring a great deal on a new blazer, recall imaginary “other plans” when we don’t feel like spending time with someone, and use a fictional “important call” to interrupt a boring conversation. The list of little white lies we tell grows longer every day, and it filters over into our online dating profiles. Writing in Scientific American, researcher Robert Epstein discovered that – try not to be shocked! — more than 90% of online daters fudge a few facts in their dating profiles!

    man_dating_onlineMost dating profile lies are fairly harmless: peeling off a few pounds or “growing” an inch or two. In fact, height and weight appear to be responsible for the majority of the little lies circulating on online dating sites. Some of the lying appears to be inadvertent, or at least wishful thinking. A Michigan State University study found that most men overestimate their height by an inch, and most women underestimate their weight by 5 to 20 pounds. The study discovered a direct relationship between a woman’s age and the number of pounds she shaves off her weight. Not surprisingly, the older a woman gets, the more weight she magically drops! Given America’s worship of the tall and thin, it’s not surprising that MSU researchers found that short and fat people tell the biggest whoppers in their online dating profiles.

    Age was found to be another honesty quagmire, although it was more of an issue for women than men. The MSU study found a statistically unrealistic increase in the number of women claiming to be either 29 or between 30 and 34. Men tended to lie more about income and education. One of the more interesting revelations was that only 13% of married men tried to pass themselves off as single.

    What have you lied about in your online dating profile?