With 40% of Americans now using online dating, something once considered taboo is now pretty normal. That doesn’t mean it’s made dating life any easier. With the pressure to present so much of your personality before you meet someone, online dating can feel daunting.
Getting the opportunity to read how people describe themselves can be eye-opening. After reading a few profiles, you might notice some patterns emerging. People tend to try to present themselves as having a few specific characteristics that are universally attractive to other people.
If you’re out in the wild trying to make sense of your dating life, it’s helpful to have a map of which direction you should head. To make things a little easier, these 10 words have become increasingly popular in dating profiles recently.
Telling your potential partner that you’re ambitious will let them know that you have drive and passion. Whether or not you’ve reached an impressive number of achievements at this point, you have a hunger for greatness. Telling your partner that you’re always striving to do better could translate to aspects beyond your work life.
People break up over one party’s lack of ambition all the time. Being someone who is outgoing and seeking a challenge in life makes it difficult to stay with someone else who doesn’t have that.
People like to be heard, even when they’re not speaking. There’s a much-disputed figure that 90% of communication is non-verbal. Even if that’s not the true percentage, there is still a great deal to be said for those who can read body language and tone of voice.
Having a partner who is perceptive means that they are someone who is always listening to you and checking in without disruption. Someone who is perceptive notices that you always brush your teeth after a meal or prefer wine to whiskey. After some time, those perceptions become deeper and can help to build a strong connection between two people.
There’s something to be said for someone who is always striving to be kind. Most people are looking for someone who is warmhearted.
It’s a difficult thing to sincerely call yourself but if you can find a clever way to add this to your profile, it will make your dating life easier. You won’t have to be subject to rude or aggressive people and you’ll be able to find someone who appreciates that quality in you.
4. Hard Working
Like ambitious, someone who is hard working could be someone who strives to make sure they excel at their job. It can also be someone who wants a relationship and who is willing to work on it.
A hard-working person will always weigh the benefits against the costs with things get rough. Hard workers appreciate the downtime they get to spend with their partners.
This is another description that’s a little subjective and hard to call yourself without a wink. Of course, everyone considers themselves to be thoughtful but people who are truly thoughtful stand a head above.
When someone is thoughtful, it means your dating life will be full of little surprises and excitement. A show or an event you casually mentioned going to will result in a pair of tickets slipped across the table to you over breakfast. People who are thoughtful can make you feel loved in a unique way.
6. Physically Fit
While this might seem shallow, it’s important that your lifestyle matches that of your partner in some way. If you bike 20 miles a day, you might enjoy the feeling of doing that alone. Conversely, it might be nice to have a companion once in a while.
Someone who is physically fit will also have the energy to do lots of fun things.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting your partner to be in the same physical shape as you. The only conflict in dating life is when someone demands fitness from their partner without achieving that goal on their own.
Creativity is important for a number of reasons. People who are creative can make the most boring and mundane tasks fun. People who are creative can also make sure you don’t end up doing any repetitive routines.
If you’re the type that gets bored by coming home, having the same dinner and watching the same TV shows week after week, you need someone creative. While some people find that pattern comfortable, others find it repulsive.
It’s important to know where your partner stands on the arts and humanities before you commit. You might get a sense from their artsy selfies, but these days it’s easy to fake a bohemian style.
Creativity and rationality might seem like they’re in conflict with one another, but they’re really not. A creative person can know the limits of their creativity and also push boundaries by knowing the limits of what being rational means.
More than anything, people who crave rationality might just want someone they can reason with instead of arguing with.
Everyone loves a good adventure. While most people say they want spontaneity, they might not want it in their dating life. It can be scary to not know what someone is doing next or where you’re going.
It can also mean that there’s an impromptu trip to the cabin in the woods upstate and you have 10 minutes to back. This could keep your relationship always fresh.
Much like spontaneity and creativity, someone who is energetic will make every day seem alive. An energetic partner will help to inspire you and to make sure you live up to your full potential. They’ll great each day with a smile and get over challenges as easily as they tackle the things they love.
Dating Life Is Complicated
While it can be easy to follow all of the “right steps” for your dating life, there are so many more elements to understanding how to succeed. Dating is a sport that not everyone can be good at. It’s easy to make mistakes and fall for people for all of the wrong reasons.
But it’s that risk of possibly succeeding that makes it all worthwhile.
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